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You have seen behind the curtain of dogma, and the problem with seeing it is that you can never unsee it. Once you recognize the sheer mechanics of belief-based systems; how they operate, how they demand compliance, and how they weaponize humans biological need for safety and belonging, the illusion breaks permanently.

It would be dishonest to say that navigating reality without clinging to magical thinking is easy. In fact, you might often look around at those who rely on supernatural safety nets, cosmic blueprints, or blind faith, and think they actually have it easier. They have a pre-written script; you have an open, unvarnished reality. Whether you are actively untangling your own identity from a coercive system, carrying the heavy emotional load of a loved one who is trapped inside one, or simply doing the rigorous work of architecting a meaningful secular life from scratch, the weight of facing reality on its own terms can be profoundly isolating.

But you do not have to chart this territory alone.

Hi, I’m Malka. I’m pleased to meet you.

I work at the intersection of evolutionary science and subjective meaning. I am a certified (neuro)psychoanalyst with a PhD in evolutionary anthropology and an MSc in psychotherapy science. I rely heavily on biological realities of the human mind, and  use evidence-based frameworks to support you in navigating the complexities of existance.

What brought you here?

You may be a grounded freethinkers who refuses to settle for a functional baseline and is continously striving to becoming a better version of yourself. You may be navigating the disorienting exhaustion of untangling your identity from faith-based dogmatism and spiritual abuse. Or you may be carrying the heavy emotional load of maintaining a relationship with a loved one trapped in an irrational or high-control belief system. 

With the self-actualizing mind, we use evolutionary frameworks to outsmart your biological defaults and consciously optimize your everyday reality. For those leaving dogmatic environments, we gradually dismantle the inherited emotional trauma and rewire your nervous system for autonomy. For those with entangled loved ones, we build the robust emotional containment and strategic communication skills necessary to sustain connection without compromising your own sanity.

My practice is an inclusive space. I am an LGBTQ+ allying, kink-aware, sex-positive, childfree-affirming, weight-inclusive, and neurodivergent-affirming psychoanalyst. Whoever you are, and however you navigate the world, you are warmly welcome.

Malka Čeh, Malka Ceh

You like to read the fine print?

I appreciate that. Here’s the story behind why you might choose to work with me. My background, my training, and the experiences that have shaped my approach.

My preoccupation with the human mind turned up unexpectedly while studying language and literature. At the undergraduate finale, I entertained myself with conceptual metaphors of emotion in everyday language. I grew attached to the topic and, in my postgraduate assignment on marketing, I examined how human emotions influence decisions. By then, I found myself increasingly curious, which led me to pivot toward psychological disciplines. I pursued a BSc and an MSc in psychotherapy science and entered psychoanalytical training. As my understanding of the biological foundations of the mental world expanded, I augmented my background with a PhD in evolutionary anthropology, later leading to a postdoc in human ethology. I am currently advancing my clinical training through the International Neuropsychoanalysis Society's two-year specialization program.

What does this mean for my work with you?

Rooted in a psychoanalytic orientation, I am trained in depth approaches that integrate unconscious processes, developmental dynamics, and relational theories. I don’t believe in shortcuts or instant solutions, and instead swear by the patient, deliberate work of structural change. My grounding in biology reassures me that nothing organic transforms overnight; shaping new mental patterns takes time, care, and repetition. Practicing in different therapeutic frameworks, including existential inquiry and my alma mater, psychoanalysis, has favored me with a diverse set of tools for this mission. They allow me to style my approach to your uniqueness, always anchored in evidence-based practice.

Of course, theoretical knowledge alone does not cultivate skill; experience does. Over the years, I honed mine through diverse clinical and research adventures, collaborating on national and international projects on mental health and well-being. In my private practice, I have had the privilege of sharing my time with a colorful spectrum of minds, from high-performing professionals to individuals seeking to rebuild their lives after profound challenges.

My trajectory took an abrupt, unexpected turn after a collision in my personal life brought me into intimate contact with a dogmatic worldview. I witnessed firsthand the devastating psychological mechanics of belief-based systems: how they hijack the mind, dictate reality, suppress autonomy, and fracture human connection. Seeing the sheer, systemic damage caused by magical thinking, I made a sharp professional pivot. My objective became singular: to provide support for those who have been harmed by these systems, and for those trying to navigate a life outside of them.

My approach remains deeply rooted in evolutionary theory and affective science. Drawing from evolutionary anthropology, evolutionary psychiatry, and cognitive neuroscience, I use these disciplines to build a clear, biological map of why we behave, believe, and bond the way we do. Whether we are deliberately rewiring your nervous system after religious trauma, outsmarting evolutionary defaults to optimize your self-authored life, or strategizing to maintain kinship across an ideological divide, this scientific foundation ensures our work is anchored in reality rather than comforting illusions.

I would like to learn more about how I can support your secular journey. I invite you to explore my modalities or reach out to begin our correspondence.

"You feel, therefore you are."

- Jaak Panksepp

"You feel, therefore you are." - Jaak Panksepp

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The "Religions of Peace" in the Dock: A Psychoanalytic Look at Doomsday Narratives ⚖️🌍

Even the most steadfast critics of religions often assume faith is inherently pro-social. History disagrees, pointing to a long track record of mass violence. 📜⚔️ When we view belief systems as ideological contagions exploiting our mental vulnerabilities, their mechanics make sense. Beit-Hallahmi (2025) illustrates this by analyzing apocalyptic "Day of Judgment" fantasies where non-believers are systematically wiped out. ☄️👁️ Why do these exist? 🧠 Human groups tie their identity to being "chosen“. When reality brings historical defeats or routine failures, the injury triggers a mental defense mechanism. 🛡️ Religious mythologies serve as this compensation. By inventing narratives of cosmic vengeance, they restore a feeling of superiority that ensures a high sense of belonging necessary for the religion to survive. 🌌 This ego boost requires an out-group to absorb the cruelty, ultimately demanding the complete destruction of nature and the eternal annihilation of everyone else. 🛑 It’s jarring to watch believers market these doctrines as a "religion of peace." 🕊️ But instead of staring in bewilderment, secular analysis helps us step back. 🔍 Mapping these biological blueprints creates the conditions for understanding and acceptance. 🌱 It positions secular reason as the foundation for future societies built on human acceptance, not the promise of cosmic revenge. 🫂✨

#humanists #atheists #humanism #atheism #deconstruction #RecoveringFromReligion #religioustraum

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/07351690.2025.2567214It‘s still Pride Month, and we continue to celebrate the beautiful complexity of human living and loving. 🌈❤️💙💛 

A quick reality check: neither gender nor biological sex are strictly binary. The mind and physical sex characteristics can easily misalign because they develop during entirely different physiological windows in the womb. Biology is not simple arithmetic. 🧬 Even between cisgender men and women, psychological differences aren't a strict binary. Herlitz and colleagues (2026) show how small differences add up:

🧠 Cognition: Females generally outperform males in verbal fluency, episodic memory, face recognition, and emotion recognition. Males, conversely, perform better on spatial tasks, such as mental rotation and line angle judgments.
🎭 Personality: When examining personality traits, women are more outgoing, more inclined to please others, more careful, more emotionally expressive, and more open-minded. Men are more reserved, assertive, carefree, less emotionally expressive, and conservative.
🔍 Interests: The study revealed a significant divergence in everyday orientations, with males showing a greater interest in "things" and females showing a greater interest in "people".

🎯 Combined, these tiny differences predict an individual's sex with 80% accuracy. But crucially, these are averages. Trait distributions heavily overlap, proving there is no purely "male" or "female" brain. Every human mind is essentially a unique mosaic. 🧩🎭

This reality is a heavy cognitive lift for some. Let‘s show a bit of compassion for the bigots aggressively policing other people's identities. Their anger usually stems from the frustration of being unable to grasp or accept their own complex nature. 🌿💚

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-026-53824-6

#pride🌈 #pridemonth #atheist #atheism #humanistHardwired for the Hard Way 🧠⚡

Have you ever looked at a religious person and felt a twinge of envy? 😏 Just for the sheer comfort of believing that someone is actively looking out for them, and that the universe is somehow just? 😇🙃

I did. I spent my childhood watching Christian kids with their ready-made explanations for the chaos of the world. 🌍📖 Without faith, you must construct your own answers from scratch. It requires decades of reading, studying, and a fierce commitment to self-growth. 🔍📚 Being religious looks much easier. So why can't we all just do that? The answer lies in our cognitive wiring. 🧬🧠

For a century, psychology has documented a consistent, negative link between intelligence and faith. But the *why* is fascinating. A massive meta-analysis by Dürlinger and Pietschnig (2026) explains that belief and reason are “functionally equivalent”. They are essentially two cognitive tools serving the exact same goal. 🎯

We live in an unpredictable, terrifying world. 🌪️😰 To establish a sense of order and “compensatory control,” religions offer simplified guidelines and improvised explanations. 📜🕯️ An analytical mind, however, looks at those shortcuts and heuristics, notices the logical inconsistencies, and keeps on searching. 🗺️🔍

Today, we are fortunate to have access to scientific explanations, but they require years of rigorous learning to grasp. 🙏🏻📚 It is hard, but switching off your analytic filter is harder. Your brain is built to demand evidence. 🛠️📊 Because an analytical mind is also negatively associated with conformity, you aren't equipped to uncritically absorb belief systems just to fit in. 🐑🐈‍⬛ 

In other words, my friend, you did not choose the struggle; the struggle chose you.🙃⚔️ Here is to doing the heavy cognitive lifting. 🏋️‍♀️🧠 We are in this together. 🤝✨ 

#humanists #humanistsinternational #atheists #atheistofinstagramThe Pathology of the Love-Haters: Diagnosing Bigotry 🏳️‍🌈🔬

Pride Month is here! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🥳 As the flags go up, let's skip the exhaustion of engaging with the straggots this year and observe their hostility through a clinical lens instead. 🧐🔬 Science suggests we are looking at the sound of a not-so-sound mind panicking. 🚨🧠 You raise your eyebrow ... panicking? 🤨 Why call it homophobia if it pure hostility? Well ... 😏
Legendary psychology studies (Adams et al., 1996; Baumeister et al., 1998) and their replications (Silva, 2019) have long shown that extreme homophobia often mirrors the defense mechanism of reaction formation: the mind converting a terrifying internal urge into an aggressive outward opposite. 🎭💥 The intolerance you see is an aggressive dominance display to prove, mostly to themselves, that they ... are not gay. 🐑🛡️

But here is the fresh data: this reactionary dominance is associated with a measurable pathology. 📉🦠
Godø et al. (2025) found that anti-LGBTQ+ prejudice correlates strongly with critically low levels of openness to experience and agreeableness. To put it plainly, these individuals lack cognitive flexibility and the basic capacity for compassion, sympathy, or cooperation. 🧊💔 Even more damning, gender-bashing and transnegativity are strongly associated with the "dark triad" of personality, specifically psychopathy (a clinical lack of empathy) and machiavellianism (cynical, manipulative behavior). 🐍🌑 

We are not dealing with a philosophical difference of opinion, but witnessing a behavioral symptom. 🤒 It's time we stop arguing with the haters and start feeling compassion for them. 🕊️❤️‍🩹 Their hostility is a symptom of an unwell, rigid mind. Trapped by its own fear, terrified of its own nature, it lashes out at a modern world that accepts the complexities of life, which the haters simply do not have the capacity for (yet). 🌍🧩

Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈🧬✨Weaponized Empathy: Why Feeling Seen Isn't Always a Green Light 🚥

Ever met someone who just got you ... right before they flawlessly weaponize that connection for their own gain? 🥲🙃

We usually equate empathy with benevolence. But empathy is not a moral compass. It is just a highly evolved, neutral radar system. 🧬📊

Understanding another person’s state is a form of biological intelligence-gathering. Your mind evaluates this data in layers, starting with automatic emotional contagion (literally "catching" a feeling) and ending with your prefrontal cortex deliberately adopting the other's perspective. And a manipulator uses the exact same cognitive machinery to find your weak spots as a kind friend uses to comfort you. 🎲

Kirkpatrick, Whitty, and Wheeldon (2026) dismantle the “empathy is always good” myth. By stripping away moral assumptions, they showed that empathic perception maps onto a spectrum, ranging from "considered altruism" to "planned predation". The biological data-gathering process is identical at both extremes. ⚫️⚪️

Understanding this is the ultimate act of self-preservation. Empathy is not a mandate to care; it is simply biology handing a situational report. 🌱🧠 Whether it is a draining friend, a charismatic online guru, or a corporation masquerading as your bestie, the world is constantly deploying empathy to map your weak spots.

When you register a deep connection, treat it with caution. Check if someone is just mining your emotions before you hand over your energy, your loyalty, or your credit card. 💳😉

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/17540739261438056

#TherapeuticWriting #WritingTherapy #ExpressiveWriting #WritingToHeal #JournalPromptsYou know the draining exhaustion of extending your shower just to litigate a past argument to the shampoo jury, desperately chasing the phantom relief of finally being understood. 🛁⚖️ Before you self-diagnose with an incurable neurosis, let me offer you a neurobiological alibi: it’s just a Homo Sapiens hard-wiring issue.

Neuroimaging reveals that when humans feel understood, primary reward centers in the brain activate—the exact same regions that light up when eating a great meal or receiving money. But when a person is misunderstood, the anterior insula activates. This is a region tied to negative affect and social pain. It physically hurts to be misread, and if you have a higher sensitivity to rejection, that neural alarm rings even louder (Morelli, Torre, & Eisenberger, 2014). 🚨

Your biology dictates that being understood is a deeply satisfying reward, and being misunderstood is an active threat. This biological drive is a massive liability. 🧬

When you blindly obey this craving, you hemorrhage your cognitive bandwidth. You end up paying a massive translation tax, wasting metabolic energy drafting perfect analogies for people who are entirely committed to misunderstanding you. You perform exhausting post-mortem email autopsies, frantically re-reading sent messages to ensure your tone was flawless. You dilute your personality to manage everyone else's impressions, and use your friends as external hard drives to crowdsource validation. 🎭

My suggestion? A free will override. 🧠⚡

You do not have to let your biology direct you. Releasing the compulsion is about reclaiming massive amounts of psychological real estate. It frees your attention to pursue goals you choose deliberately, rather than exhausting yourself chasing the ones evolution laid into your crib. 🧬🐤

And the ultimate spoiler: You already have the one person who can fully understand you, see you, and know you. That person will never leave you, and you spend 24 hours a day with them.

It's you. 🤍 Work on that relationship instead.

#PeoplePleasingRecovery #BoundarySetting #Overthinking #InnerWork #EmotionalIntelligence #EmotionalGrowth #EmotionalMaturity #SelfRegulation #SelfAwarenessHave you ever heard a stranger's voice and felt your entire nervous system short-circuit? 🙃 It’s tempting to call that a "cosmic sign". But clinging to that magical explanation is a trap. 😏🚩

Evolutionary science can vouch that human attraction isn’t fate. It’s your mental system rapidly processing physical cues to assess a stranger's genetic quality. Every person you meet is essentially a walking, talking biological billboard, and your brain is just trying to read the ads. And Kordsmeyer and colleagues (2026) studied whether a person's appearance hands over one cohesive genetic CV, or if different aspects send mixed signals. They had 400 people rate facial photos, voice recordings, and 3D body scans for attractiveness, health, and physical dominance.

It turns out, a person's face and body usually reach a consensus. If their face signals "good genetic potential", their body typically echoes that message. Surprisingly, one's voice is a biological wildcard. 😲🃏 The researchers found very few significant associations between how a voice was judged and how the face or body were judged. This means a person’s voice might be telling a completely different genetic story than their face.

Knowing this is wonderfully freeing. 🕊️ It removes the exhausting weight of trying to find your "soulmate" in every flutter of your nervous system. Actual, subjective compatibility, like whether that person will laugh at your jokes or remember how you take your coffee, has nothing to do with their potential for producing healthy offspring. ☕😉

The next time you feel inexplicably drawn to a stranger's voice, you can just smile and wave. 😏 The universe isn't handing you a pre-packaged partner. Your sensory receptors just caught a really good ad for genetic potential. 🌿 The rest is entirely up to you. 🦋

#evolutionarypsychology #humanbehavior #attraction #emotionalintelligence #nervoussystem #biologyoflove #wellbeing #personaldevelopmentYue, An, & Lin (2025) looked at emotional granularity, the ability to put specific names to one’s feelings. 🏷️😊Instead of just feeling “bad”, can you distinguish between thwarted, unseen, or overstimulated? 🤔Using brain-wave tracking (ERP), the authors found that for women with high emotional granularity, simply labeling a feeling acts as an implicit “reset” button for the nervous system. This technique, called affect labeling, significantly lowers distress signals. 😌🙏 Essentially, when you give a feeling a precise name, you no longer need to scream to get your own attention. The takeaway for your well-being: precision is a form of self-care. 🌿 When you move beyond “stressed” and identify the specific flavor of your discomfort, you are not overthinking; you are reprogramming your emotional response. ☺️🌻

#womenpower #womenhealth #personalgrow #emotionalintelligence“You are what you love, not what loves you.” - Susan Orlean & Charlie Kaufman 🤍 Love is one of nature’s most powerful designs. Biologically, it is possessive. It pulls you to another person, binds you with desire, makes you protective, jealous, attentive. These feelings serve the survival of genes. They increase the chances that two people stay close long enough to reproduce and raise offspring. From nature‘s perspective, love is ownership: holding, guarding, keeping close. Buddhism teaches that the purest love is love without attachment. Attachment clings and grasps, always fearing loss. Detached love rests in the present moment, generous without demanding return. It flows like water: nourishing what it touches, without the urge to keep it. To move from possessive instinct to liberated love, you will want to develop your capacities for emotional regulation and management. You can learn to let go of the pull of jealousy, craving, or fear of abandonment. You can learn to meet those sensations, let them arise, acknowledge it, and sent them further. This is the Buddhist practice of detachment, releasing the tight grip of expectation. Different practices can help you cultivate this kind of love: 🪷 Mindful observation: Notice when longing, jealousy, or fear appear in your body. Instead of following them, breathe and let them pass like clouds. 🌀 Reframing: Shift your perspective from “this person is mine” to “this person is here, and I am grateful.” 🎨 Channeling: When possessive energy surges, direct it into expression: writing, creating, moving, so the energy transforms instead of consuming. 💗 Compassion meditation: Practice metta (loving-kindness), extending warmth first to yourself, then to others, even those beyond your circle. 🍂 Impermanence awareness: Contemplate change. Everything you love will shift, transform, or pass. When you accept impermanence, you can love fully without trying to freeze it. In its raw form, love is a survival program. In its cultivated form, it becomes a practice of freedom. You begin to love differently. What defines you is not whether your love is returned, but how you hold and release the feeling itself.🌿 In memoriam of Jane, the woman whose life’s work reminded us that we are nature, shaped by it, defined by it, and never separate from it. 🤍🤍🌱

"Only when our clever brain and our human heart work together in harmony can we achieve our true potential." – Jane Goodall (1934–2025).

Your emotions are ancient operating mechanisms that natural selection built into your body. 🧬⚙️ We are all born with core emotional systems: SEEKING, PANIC/GRIEF, PLAY, RAGE, FEAR, LUST, and CARE. These are the neural webs 🕸️ that make learning possible 📚 and give rise to thought itself. 💭 But there’s a challenge: These emotional systems evolved for a very different world. They were tuned for life in collective female kinship networks, not for nuclear families or towering hierarchies. 🏠🏢 Which means that many of the feelings that guide your behavior every day are optimized for a vanished environment. 🌳👭🌸 This is why your brain and your heart must work together. 🧠❤️ The ancient emotional architecture provides the drive, and your reasoning system helps you translate it into the structures you now live in. 🚀⚖️ When you learn to work with both, you unlock a sturdier kind of strength. 💪🌷 Not brittle control or squishy surrender, but a grounded competence that lets you act with agility and build the person and life you want. 🦋💫

“Thank you, Dr. Goodall, for teaching us our place in nature, and nature’s place within us.” 🌿🤍 

#JaneGoodall #EmotionalStrength #WomenWhoLead #EmotionalGrowth #InnerAuthority #WomenOfWisdom #EmotionalResilience 
#WomenInCommand #EmotionalIntelligence #WomenEmpoweringWomen
#MasterYourEmotions
#SelfReliantWomen
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#BuildYourCore„Consciousness begins when brains acquire the power, the simple power I must add, of telling a story.“ – A. Damasio

🌱 Damasio’s insight reshapes how you can think about consciousness. It’s not a spark of mysticism or a computational miracle. It’s a living process: your mind weaving a story about the state of your body in the world. 🌿🌍. Not a story told in words, but in feelings. In shifts of comfort and discomfort, in signals that move you by alerting and orienting. Your brain is constantly composing. Moment by moment, it binds what’s happening inside your body to what’s happening around it. The result is a seamless account of you, a non-verbal narrative that says: this is what’s happening to me, this is how it feels, and this is what it means for survival. 🪞🌊 Emotions are central to this narrative. They’re the foundation of thought, your body’s storytelling tools. Each emotion acts like a sensor and a scribe: registering shifts in your internal state and shaping how the world appears through that lens. When your heart races, your breath tightens, or your gut clenches, your brain integrates that information into the tale it’s telling about who you are and what matters right now. This ability is a simple power that sets conscious organisms apart. It allows you to become the protagonist of your life. Not just a being that reacts, but a being that knows it is reacting. 🌀🧠💓

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