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The Rebellion Against a Life Lived Unnoticed
I have never been an Osho fan because I routinely harbored a deep distrust of popular culture, and at one point, everywhere I looked, there were Osho books. So, it…
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Having Children Is Becoming a Question. Good.
Having children is a fairly enormous commitment to make because it seems to be what comes next. Some of us have looked at the job description and decided we’re happy…
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When Your Therapist Thinks Being Childfree Is the Problem
Imagine booking an appointment because you’re starting to feel like shit after almost every conversation with your partner. They make jokes at your expense and accuse you of being oversensitive…
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When Religious Upbringing Becomes Abuse
I value inclusiveness and tolerance, but I’m increasingly worried about the horrible things we can end up enabling in their name. Religion, along with pseudoscience and conspiracy madness, can get…
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Why Emotional Competence Matters
Sometimes you know exactly what you feel and why. At other times, you can tell that something is bothering you, but describing it is another matter. You feel vaguely dissatisfied,…
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The Ultimate Prequel: How You Went From Puddle to Person
You may be accustomed to seeing me rewind the clock only so far. We usually stop around 300,000 years ago to check in on early Homo sapiens. Occasionally, when we…
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Your Mind, Your Genes, and the Parts You Don’t See
When you think about yourself, your own history offers the most immediate material. Your thoughts, feelings, motives, and peculiarities feel personal and private, shaped by what you have experienced and…
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Sex, Gender, and the Making of a Self
“Boy or girl?” is most often among the first questions asked about a person. The answer may precede your name. It precedes your earliest memory, and every thought you eventually…
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Ceremoniousness in Therapy Culture
Lately, I’ve been seeing more therapy memes and more therapists making funny reels about their work. They share ridiculous moments from our working lives, speak without arranging their faces into…
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Why I Work With Childfree Freethinkers
You’ve probably noticed how an ordinary conversation can acquire a surprising number of participants when you mention that you don’t have children. Some want your reasons, others predict your future,…